Outlining my Misery Loves Company(Daycare) thoughts

The Misery Loves Company, methods of child-rearing—

How swaddling improves the condition of the minds of infants?

1. gives them a sense of care and safety
2. continues the sense of security
3. improves the remembrance of things that were learned in the womb
4. links present memories to prenatal memories
5. engages the mind and prevents the PTSD that the birth process begins
6. the memories of loving care or simulated loving care helps retain the memories of that time period.

Retention of the information introduced in infancy—

1. Nursery Rhymes and the rapture
2. Cultural connectors
3. Spiritual connectors
4. Beginning the process of ethical reflexes
5. Beginning the process of word decoding
6. context cues and the building of culture

Education non toy playtimes

Slavery’s impact on our child rearing

Recovering from the misdeeds of Dr. Spock

Hormone impulses in Child care and simulated love expressions

The Village of People and the village of Orcs

Wake Up, Everybody!

To say so little with so much time, is astonishing.

I watched with tepid anticipation of Bold and Sweeping ambitions guiding us into a positive vision of future events from the thinkers and political pundits.  Not So.  When in doubt say Trump, was what I heard.   

The people who think are shut down, by saying that is how Trump won.

it seems that they still don’t get it.  They are blaming people for not wanting anymore of this veiled elitism that has become the order of the day in Political pansying.   

The youngsters who gave real and realistic proposals were shut down for long stories from the elder states people about what they would have done had they the time to have done it.  They’ve been given that time and they haven’t until now, taken up the tasks that they are talking about.  I think it means that they are incapable.  The less time that people were given and yet able to make their point and discuss the problem with a real and candid directness was refreshing.  The long stories are the problem, to my mind.  Don’t tell me stories about this or that person you know who hasn’t been able to find their solution.  Tell me the solution.

Are you going to tax people?  You don’t consider yourselves elitists because you don’t make 50million yet.  Balderdash.  You have made it.  Stop pretending that you are a regular person trying to get things done.  You are about continuing the status quo.  we Americans are not afraid of rich people saying I am rich and I am trying to carve a path for such thinking for everybody.  They have shut those voices down so much.  they don’t recognize the solution, because they are justifying their lifestyles without letting people know that they are rich.  Come On.

Let the people with real answers and bold amazing ideas talk and not these elitists educated ish.  who have the philosophy that all are poor who want to be poor.  If you did what I did, you wouldn’t be poor.  Lets bring ini immigrants to show that off.  give them everything you haven’t had access to, so we can grow the party.  The boat is sinking!   We don’t know why.  Lets continue denying real americans and start again with new americans.  To show the left behind poor how to do it.   Who is losing out to such policies?   FLINT, etc!!!

I say Delaney was the winner, who with less time said more than any on that stage.  It is time for a person with few words and much doing and right priorities of that which is at home to direct the narrative.   

It is lying when Donald Trump does it.  It is directing the narrative, when they say it!  Semanticists need not apply, should be on somebody’s advertisement for the application of Office of President.  It is time to pass the Torch, the torch of self fulfilling leadership.  All for us and the best for us and forget everybody else.  We get raises and We get health care and we get and live off the peoples taxes and offer them nothing but inviting the rest of the world in to prove that poverty is the poor’s fault!  

Get off your fatted 401 ks and do something!

Back to the Drawing Board in 2019) Studying the Goodness of God, when his providences are elusive?

All is well, said the woman who's son had died to Elijah... We women express interesting faith and unbelief cycles in scripture. I can identify with the unbelief of the NT father who said Lord I believe, help my unbelief, but for the life of me, I will never understand the faith of All is Well, when her son had died? My faith is often tried in my own experiences and especially when it comes to the experiences of my children. I was so relieved to find that Jerry Bridges had had the same experience that I did, when it came to the building up of his shield of faith. I was taught in childhood to "offer it up" which was akin to denying the circumstance as a rightful expression of God's wrath upon our untoward sinful humanity. I kept thinking through my childhood, what kind of friend treats his creation like that. I didn't see any goodness in the terms "offer it up". God is good. The woman with Elijah seemed to understand that God is drawing us into friendship and He uses His providences to grow us into greater communication with Him. We cannot understand or be friends with a long-suffering God if we don't learn long-suffering through crisis. It took years to understand that part of God's winsomeness. He is trying to make us able to communicate with Him.

God I know that You are amazing in the long-suffering attribute, the wellness of Your purpose, might ellude me, but I know that is who you are and that You are my friend and drawing me even closer to Yourself, so the purposes of Your allowing this hardness is "For Your Glory!"

Nothing Between was a motto for 2015 or '16, when I started giving a hymn theme to the year to try to remember. I am trying to grow in my faith and live to get into closer relationship with God, in spite of the fact that my dear girl has inherited the challenge of higher blood pressure to control. It is challenging to lasso this hard fact and bring it into captivity, using medicine and diet and exercise. I believe God has good purposes. I believe God loves me and has a wonderful plan for my life and most of all I believe that God loves my children more than I do!

Thank You Lord for developing my shield of faith and teaching me to trust You a little more with each challenge. Amen.

Nothing between

my soul and the Savior, Naught of this world's delusive dream; I have renounced all sinful pleasure; Jesus is mine, there's nothing between.

Nothing between my soul and the Savior, So that His blessed face may be seen; Nothing preventing the least of His favor, Keep the way clear! Let nothing between.

Nothing between, like worldly pleasure; Habits of life, though harmless they seem, Must not my heart from Him e'er sever; He is my all, there's nothing between.

Nothing between, like pride or station; Self-life or friends shall not intervene; Though it may cost me much tribulation, I am resolved; there's nothing between.

Nothing between, e'en many hard trials, Though the whole world against me convene; Watching with prayer and much self-denial, I'll triumph at last, with nothing between.

Come Home, already!

Perhaps, DC is the place where we send our best talkers to learn how to monetize human life and make deals for their constituents. We have all decided that the only people who are unrepresented are the unborn, at this juncture of history. If we survive this calculation is up to us. Will we fight for the truth that they are people too, or will we continue to barter the future adinfinitum, so to speak.

A part of our country that is always under the spotlight of public scrutiny and paying the price of God's judgment is a spectacle, of course. I think that there are different places in the country that have claims to fame. DC is the hollowness of the hole in the ground of the conscience.

If I make my bed in hell, Thou art there! God's word reminds us.

So we needn't be afraid of being there. But I must be afraid of the mentality that every person has a monetization. How much is that person's vocabulary worth? Etc. Are they using it up to the level of the parity of their deductions? All of that is in the air in DC. You needn't enter into the discourse with it. You only need to pray that God will touch and bring the valleys up to ground level.

In my imagination, every State negotiates with the heavenlies for the trophy of God's presence. Do we want some of His presence? Do we turn from including Him in our ways? We will be shocked, when we get to heaven and find that we had just about as much of God as we ever wanted, both in our personal life and in our corporate "State".

Don't Drink the Water!

And they call it poopy love

This is my fourth year in the study of infant care. I was in awe of Ms. Janet, initially. She seemed in command of her ship, so diligently. Some might have considered her a control freak. I simply loved to watch what her focus was. So much of childcare is unpredictable, that she considered controlling what could be controlled as her mission. In my years of mothering, I must say that I never thought of it that way.

Her very first consideration of the child was the poop. It is disgusting. I agree that poop is disgusting. But the difference between nursing poop and bottle poop is uncontrollable. She didn't like the changing process, but she would gird herself up as a warrior and change them in and amazing rhythm.

She seemed to have a party when the child no longer had that yucky kind of poop. I had never noticed that there had been a process to the poop. Early harder poops that can be handled easily became my goal, also. Less time wiping and fewer soft poops as possible became the goal. That became my focus amidst the mayhem of infant care.

Keeping them from hurting eachother and learning how they communicate was a close second to not having to spend ten or fifteen minutes changing a poopy baby. I really don't mind the changing diaper process persay, but children have a way of using that time to get into mischief. I saw that.

Today I thought about that because my poop was unusually sinking to the bottom of the toilet and I consider that I may have a new season of my own poop to consider. That is why I am telling you so!

She seemed commander of the poop!  She celebrated their transition to a less sticky process of diaper changing...

She knew what to feed them to firm it all up, etc,.  I hadn't noticed those details, but I found myself admiring some certain types of poop and disdaining others....

The Adventists had the best poop, in my opinion. It was like little marbles that you never got on yourself at all.  I liked that better than the mushy stuff...

Parents sent the food, but if they didn't Mrs. Janet kept a stash for them.. Get them off the breast milk as early as possible and let's speed up the changing process.  Not my sentiments, exactly but I understood why people looked at nursing mothers with an incredulity of their tolerating that soft stuff for so long...  It is a lot different when it is your breast milk and your child's soft stuff...

He Will Carry You!

I think the only reason Nebuchadnezzar lives was because he challenged some human minds to think

{Originally written on 1/1/19}


A covenant of brain development...

Perhaps a figment of my imagination I believe that the translation of Enoch to heaven was a translation of brain development as well as a translation of heart relationship...

God is intensely defending his own glory, is a  given.  We cannot know or see God without faith.  It is impossible to please HIm.  we must believe that he is and is a rewarded of them that diligently seek him.   What is diligently seeking God?  Is. It repeating the Halleluiah with or without a faith base.  Absolutely not!  Is it consistency in our vows and responsibilities?  We know that Jesus paid it all in that regard.

My mind says that God wants us to pursue Him with our minds.  He has set up a world where we are able to seek his will for our lives with our minds and with our hearts and with our hands

What means swords to plowshears.  Fighting the battle for better health and seeing the purpose of God in the things that are around us?  do we use our faith to do that?  Very rarely...

What if climbing up the mountain is a symbolism for being a church which is stuck on the mountain of legality in PIlgrim's Progress?  What if our moving forward is a judgment against our not using our faith to advance our minds and look up where we are in the greater scheme of things?  What if? what if we are stuck in a church history motif that is trying our working together with likeminded brethren of other colors and cultures?  Are we winning or losing that battle?  God is going to show Himself just as prejudiced against our directions as we are to our avowed prejudicial acceptance... We accept our own prejudices and can see our infidelities that we accept very clearly.

What if we haven't even made it to the wicket gate with our burdens because our theology is eschewed thinking that we are saved by our much churchyness....?god give us eyes to see that God will and has tolerated heresies and false beliefs that have damned generations or blinded them to the true faith that God expected them to live on the earth.  Are we entertaining ourselves to death?  Are we fighting the good fight?

Taking care of our lives and our bodies and our world is a part of our relationship with God.  where is our song about walking through the wicket gate and guiding others through and avoiding the fiery darts of the wicked one?   where is our song about learning the difference between legality and true faith?  Is our simplicity of faith blinding us from real study of the Word and great literature.  

Overcoming by the "word of their testimony means engaging in the word warfare that locks our eyes from seeing the mission of the church in our age.  We are not looking at the map and singing as we go thinking the next stop is heaven and we are supposed to be learning a lesson of legality that is lost because we are thinking that a lesson is for the sons of Japheth...

Seize the Day. The code belongs to us, but not if we aren't reading and translating as we ought.

"She Shall be saved?" What is our future salvation?

She shall be saved through the childbearing... If they continue?

Is every promise in the book mine? No promise in the book is mine if I am not attached to the Church of the Lord Jesus Christ. I believe that this is the deception of our era.

It resonate salvation apart from the covenant of church membership. Spurious faith as expressed by unattached humans to covenant of marriage and of covenant all agreements far and wide reaching. There is little or no protection from the elements of this world system of deceptions in our own strength if we are walking in our awn sins. we all too often are walking in our sins and the degradation follows us from generation to generation. The "Devolution of our race in the full light of the sun of God's entire revelation given to us and yet we would much rather walk in the light of our own expressions than pour over what is already revealed. we are not tricking our children and they are indeed calling us into question on al of our inconsistencies with regard to our faith. Why are you acting as an unattached Christian. why is your attachment greater to the things of the world than the things of Christ.

Which in regards to women, He shall rule over her. With regard to Her desire, Her desire is to rule over Men and this is far and wide reaching. God promises to subdue such unprincipled desires. You want to be the ruler of the world Woman! God says You will want to take over and do what you want all over the place. It is a Psychosis of Femininity and God has promises regarding this. He will allow it for a moment and then thwart it to the utmost. How much better to accept your position and usefulness in Scripture and do what God intends you to do? why don't we do this. We want our own way and we reap the negative consequences of such actions. God is not tricked by our wrong impulses. God is designing how we will be it back into place as He intended. God has a purpose for our creation and the more we kick against the pricks, so to speak the more we are reaping the sad unnecessary consequences of our own actions. God wants to be known by us. He has spoken, clearly in Scripture about what we are a how we should be acting, but we would rather create our own path of regulating principles.

We are looking for our own way...

Let's follow the move of God's anointing in stead. Be attached to God's Church.

Watching my boys be boys!

I love watching the Gadsdens first crushes.  They are so disciplined in their lives and yet there is a carefreeness that they seem attracted to in the girls who are more often in trouble.  Perhaps it is the attention that their trouble creates for them or something else, maybe.

 I watched William's short stint of a crush with Rhema and that has fizzled and now it is Joshua and Kaylee.  There is something freeing that he seems to find in playing with her.  She has absolutely no consideration for rules, whatsoever.  She lives as though no person should or has the right to direct her steps.  She never sits or stands when the class is directed to and if there is a directive given to everyone, she is sure to go the other way. 

Thursday morning Joshua sat next to her, looked up in the air as he always does and said I am Joshua and then they proceeded to play together without another word said between them until breakfast.  They were dressing the paper dolls.  A game that few of the threes engage in.  It takes some observation and hand skill that isn't cared for by most of the children, but they found a common thread there and it was curious to me how two very opposite children could find commonality.

I am prejudicely suspect of only children by bias.  I hardly think them able to learn to really share, whereas children in a larger family have no choice but to share from their earliest moments of life.  I realize that my bias is wrong and baseless, but I haven't seen it really work out that only children don't take advantage of what is a rule of law for children in larger families.  All children are selfish, but it has long been my opinion that only children can only be understood by only children and multiples, the same.  The family dynamic draws out personality traits that are best kept to themselves, as I see it.  The concept of cherishing and mine alone is sometimes lost in a big family and needs to be learned and the concept of sharing and community like to the only child, in my opinion.

In any case, I was liking the personality sharing that was happening between Kaylee and Joshua.  He was feeling free in her freedom and she was learning disciplines she hasn't exercised before.  All over a couple of paper dolls!

Although we didn't celebrate Santa at Christmas, I can see how he could fit into the festivities

How Christmas might be a good assistant in child rearing?

I don't remember Christmas being held over our heads as children.   We watched the children specials and memorized the Santa Clause jingles in every form.  Somehow it doesn't seem to stick in my mind, a time that I said to myself, I won't do this or that naughty thing because Santa won't remember me.  We did believe in Santa and we did get good grades, but we also did naughty things at all times of the year, Christmas notwithstanding.

Since working in childcare, I have seen parents starting in September reminding and pulling out Santa as an impetus to progress and better behavior.  I didn't even think about that with my children.  I thought about truth and a lie.  

I thought if I tell that lie about Santa, they may not believe me about Jesus.  That was my only reason for not invoking his name.  We read his history, like Christopher Columbus and Miguel Cervantez and Horatio Nelson.  I forgot to tell them not to spill the beans to the believers in Santa cousins.  We felt sorry for the deceived children who couldn't find it in their hearts to try to behave for Galatians 6:1 sake.  God said it. There is forgiveness with Christ that He may be feared.  They didn't mean harm in sharing with cousins that Santa was a historic figure and that He wasn't actually coming down the chimney on Christmas.  They thought that truth was obvious.

Well there is something very sober about rearing children to try to be good for goodness sake and to expect good from God and ignoring the Santa motives.

Still, I feel I missed a great opportunity of investing in the imagination of my children in that season.  We have many special memories, but Santa was an aside.

I love what Santa represents in this time in my life.  I love the trout that we all know that children need multiple motives to behave and one of them is imaginary and special and all kind, unless you are naughty.   It draws out their own attempts at finding good and kind motives for younger people and maybe it could snowball into great imaginations of better and better motives to do good.  God should be enough, we know.  But, sometimes people need great imaginations of better people than the ones that they know to guide them to a good imagination of God.  That is what I have grown to believe about Santa.

"Eye has not seen nor ear heard, neither has it entered into the heart of man, the things that God has prepared for those that love Him."